The Two Most Important Words in a Marriage

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Housewives often go unappreciated. It’s just a fact. And come to think of it, even when I’ve seen a husband step in to take care of something, the wife may barely take notice of it as well. Watching other couples, I’ve seen something my husband does differently.

He always says “Thank you” AND means it. 

When my husband and I were engaged, I took a week off of work and decided to visit him. He would come home late after a 16-18 hour shift and literally inhale the plate of food I had prepared. It made me glad he was getting his fill but also terrible because he was actually THAT hungry.

But what he did next blew me away. He thanked me for the meal, picked up my plate and his, and proceeded to do the dishes. I asked him what he was doing. He told me “You cooked, so I’ll clean up.” Oh, my heart! I got a good one. There’s nothing like SHOWING your appreciation like this.

My husband is a very enthusiastic and positive person. I, on the other hand, am not easily moved. I am naturally always happy but not easily excitable (chill your dirty minds, guys). But because of his nature, he often will come home and be like “Wow! You did the laundry! Wow, the house looks amazing! Wow, you got chicken! Wow, I love this piece of decor you got! I love our home! Thank you for making our house into a home!” It’s his compliments and appreciation that keep me motivated to do these majorly mundane tasks. And when I don’t do them, he doesn’t say anything.

And I hope I say my fair share of “thank you’s” in return. It may be easy to say this all now as newlyweds and I know there’s no possible way I’m a marriage expert at this point, but I hope this becomes ingrained in us. And I hope this is not my infatuation with him taking over *insert crying laughing emoji*.

 

What I Eat In A Day

Sugar is definitely an addiction. I love dessert but I was getting into the habit of eating it daily, and that at 10pm at night. Now, I’m trying to limit my carbs as much as I can. If my meals earlier in the day were heavier in carbs, I’ll make sure I won’t consume many carbs during dinner. But I think once you start kicking those carby items to the curb, it gets easier.

I am a big fan of the myfitnesspal app. It allows you to track your calorie intake, exercise and water intake. It really keeps me in line. I definitely like that you can plug in Indian foods and get an idea of how many calories are in that. Also, you can go out to eat, search the chain restaurant and food in the app and input your calories. It’s basically an eye-opening app to help build better eating habits. After awhile, you’ll learn to make better food choices and will no longer need to track calories.

I’m only on Day 1 million of my diet and I’m down 0 pounds. I’m teetering a lot. I do utilize my elliptical almost daily but without adjusting my diet more, my weight will just stay the same. I may have to resort to eating a plate of veggies for a meal or juicing again.

On a good day, I will try my best to stick to eating/drinking these items but I’ll also limit portions:

Drinks:

  • Water
  • Tea (1-2 cups)
  • Coconut water
  • Wine (but I consider it a dessert because it’s a treat essentially)

Breakfast:

  • English muffin with butter or peanut butter & fruit
  • Veggie omelette (2 eggs)
  • Acai bowl (but they can be high in sugar from fruits so I haven’t been having these lately)
  • Avocado toast
  • Kodiak protein packed dark chocolate pancakes (nutrition facts below)

Lunch: I like to keep it simple because I don’t want to spend half my day cooking.

  • Tofu & veggies with a pre-made sauce
  • Salad consisted of spinach leaves, Trader Joe’s chicken strips, goat cheese, nuts, carrots, cherry tomatoes and dressing
  • Bean salad: olives, cucumber, chickpeas, black beans, cheese, salt, pepper & lime juice
  • Soup
  • Usually anything leftover from the previous night’s dinner

Snacks:

  • Almonds or peanuts
  • Carrots & Dip
  • Honey wheat pretzels
  • Bean salad
  • Carrot juice
  • Cabot unflavored whey protein with cold coconut water (this is delicious)

Dinner: Dinner tends to be heavier because I have it with my husband. It’s often his first meal of the day after a busy day at work so I reserve most of my calories for this meal. I admit it’s not the best for dinner to be our heaviest meal of the day. Portion control here would be key.

  • entrée:
    • Paneer in a gravy
    • Fried tofu with veggies
    • Salmon
    • Turkey meatballs
    • Chicken wrap
    • Chicken or turkey tacos
    • Zucchini noodles (Zoodles)
    • Bean, veggie & cheese quesadilla
  • Sides:
    • Steamed or stir-fried vegetables
    • White rice or farro
    • Raita (yogurt-based)
    • Salad
    • Jalapeno poppers (these aren’t too healthy)

No, I don’t use the eyes. I do tweak this recipe and add spices and less cheese.

Dessert:

  • Fruit
  • Popsicle
  • 1-2 Girlscout cookies
  • A serving of chocolate
  • Wine & cheese!

By the end of a good day, I would’ve consumed a net of 1200-1400 calories. Obviously, not every day is a good day -.-

I know I sometimes have trouble coming up with new meals to add to my rotation so I hope this at least helps.

– Relatable Roni